I just found this piece to be absolutely moving and I hope it helps other people and you continue to be strong on your journey! I hope if i’m ever going through this i’m remember this.
Gosh, thank you! I truly appreciate you taking the time to read this. Sending lots of love your way!
Very brave and very poignant. Thank you for sharing and although we only worked together once I instantly knew you were amazing! I’m happy to see via instagram and this post that I was spot on. I hope we cross paths again, and at that time I will again remind you of the greatness you’ve reminded me of. ❤️✊🏾
You're the best. Again, thank you thank you! <3
I love this piece so much. You show incredible strength by posting such a personal thing, but know that you’re not alone. My ex and I were in a toxic relationship and I was lucky enough to figure it out sooner than later, but I am so sorry you had to go through that hun. Just always remember: “You are stronger than you think, braver than you believe, smarter than you seem, and loved more than you know.”
I appreciate your support more than I can put into words. Thank you. <3
I’ve followed you for a while and as someone who’s been where you are I know it’s not easy. And I can say you are an amazing person to end the situation and take back control! You deserve nothing but the best in your life! You are a beautiful, talented woman never lose sight of yourself for anyone!
This is a very moving blog. I wish you well on your healing and future! I look forward to watching you grow!
Thank you so much for the kind, supportive words. <3
This is such a strong message. I'm not going through this but I can relate so strongly from past relationships, you're amazing for helping other people cope, keep going ❤
Thank you so much! :)
Wow. This was amazing, you have a way with words that makes me feel as though I was there with you. Your words are so meaningful. You are such a strong and inspiring woman. ❤️
Gosh thank you so much! <3
This was such a moving piece because I had to go through this also. I was in a relationship for 6 years and I didn't realize it was toxic until it ended and I got with someone that truly loves me.
Thank you so much for reading this and opening up about your experience. Much love!
Thank you for this Jen. I can only imagine it was difficult to share, though a drop in the ocean compared to the experiences themselves. I'm sorry that you went through this, you seem so lovely and I think it's a testament to your strength that you maintain such a positive display for the world. I hope you don't feel obligated to do that all the time; remember you don't owe your "audience" anything.
Lots of love from the other side of the planet.
I so appreciate your kind feedback!
I know this was probably difficult to share but you did it so beautifully! Youre very strong & I hope good comes out of this experience for you <3
Thank you so much!
Currently going through this. Thank you so much, this truly hit home. I dated this guy for a while and he was my first serious relationship so I always made an effort to make things work while I wasn’t getting anything back from him and I felt like it was that I wasn’t good enough, pretty enough, smart enough you know the stuff they want you to believe. We broke up recently and it was the hardest thing. I still get sad at times and feel lonely but I know I’m better off alone than in something toxic.
I'm sorry to hear you are currently going through a similar situation. You are not alone and you will be so much stronger in due time! Much love!
thank you so much for sharing so much about your past relationship. I can’t imagine how hard for you it has been to simply break up and you’ve dated for so long. You’re so strong seriously. I recently broke up with my ex about a month ago and we were dating for about 4 years, I thought I was going through a hard time but honestly I don’t ever think about what other people are going through and just how they do it with the break up, I admire you for gling through it and dealing with it. It’s so hard hard for me to still let go because I love him so much but he isn’t changing and I’ve asked him so many times about my needs but sometimes it will just not workout. I’m still in a bad place but reading your blog really helps me understand how to cope with this. Thank you so much Jen, sending you so much love): we can get through this
Thank you for opening up about your personal experience and taking the time to read mine. Sending you lots of love on your journey.
Jen, thank you for sharing from your heart. I am so glad you are speaking about something so many people actually stay quiet about. As a survivor of domestic violence and a toxic relationship I know how important it is to step back and let go of someone that has caused you so much pain while claiming it is love. I wish your heart (and anyone else going through this) joy, love, healing and clarity.
I'm sorry to hear about your trauma and hope you are healing. Thank you for the warm wishes and taking the time to read this.
I absolutely loved this! And I know it’s not going to help many people
I hope you mean it *will help!? Much love!
This was so authentic and raw and just encompasses all the subtle parts of a toxic relationship. Too real when you’re someone who was in one and trying to remember these things when you start to forget. Thanks for this, Jen—you’re a strong ass woman and I’m so proud of you.
Thank you thank you. Your feedback means the world to me.
Jen — I am honestly so in awe of you. Not for your thoughtfully written prose but for fighting the natural fear to allow the internet into a deeply rooted wound and post this anyway. This is vulnerable. Enlightening. Truthful and relatable. As someone who continues to struggle with a break up despite logically reminding myself of the continuous reasons not to go back to the toxic relationship, I am reluctantly content that I am not the only one. You are such a rockstar and as much as I know it’s easy to hear “time will heal all wounds”, I know how hard it is to believe. Out of the many articles I’ve read on this subject however, I genuinely believe your words and I am so thankful for you being open enough to air these grievances. So here’s to less grievances, and more self-love, J Love! 💕
Annie! I miss you! This brought me to tears! You've always been such a kind, generous, strong woman and I appreciate you taking the time to read this and send me encouragement. I'm sorry to hear you're struggling too, and as cliche as it sounds, time helps! Don't hesitate to reach out! Here if you need anything! <3
It is so comforting to see that I wasn’t the only one going through this. I ended my toxic relationship two years ago, it was a relief however it impacted me more after the break-up. That’s when my anxiety and depression were at their worst, because I had lost the little amount of self confidence I had in me and felt like no one would ever want a girl like me in their life. I thought I would never fall in love again because I was in love with a totally fake image of a person so how was that even possibly love?
A couple of months ago, I met a guy and yes, I did fall in love.
Thank you for this great article Jen xx
Thanks so much for reading and sharing your experience. Much love!
Jen, thank you for being brave and sharing this. I can definitely relate to this, having had my own fair share of toxic relationships. Always here to love and support you! Wishing you more personal growth and development while you're living your best life in 2019! ❤️
Sophie! Thanks for reading! Sorry to hear that you've also experienced this! LET'S CATCH UP SOON! <3
Thank you for posting this, I too went through a few relationships like this one. And I didnt realize until I was out that it was bad, I spent a few months trying to defend him to others after we broke up, it took awhile to even eat realize after. Thank you for sharing your story.
Thanks for sharing your story and taking the time to read mine.
It's amazing to read this article and see you validating your experience through your writing. I had a very very similar experience years ago with my ex that I dated for over 2 years. I still have some left over issues from it, even after 4 years has gone by since the break up, but I am so much stronger from it. It's really great to see you going through the same difficult process and know that I wasn't the only one who struggled through something like this, especially the part about taking years to realize what was happening because of low self-esteem and my ex's "redeeming qualities". Again, I just want to thank you for writing this so that others can see that they aren't alone in this. Keep up the great work and stay strong!
I have been following you for a long time on Instagram and I've been going through almost the exact same thing, a little different though. First off, the man I'm with and trying to break up with is like dangerously in love with me. The issue is... he is what causes my depression and anxiety.... Everytime we talk, he argues with me, fights and makes me feel like shit. Except the annoying thing is he tells me he cannot live without me, he loves me and says he needs me for life. My issue is I'm no longer in love with him, he's caused me so much depression that I get physically ill. I've recently fallen in love with one of my best friends...and I am not strong enough to cut the other guy off completely! I ignore his phone calls, his texts everything, I cannot mentally tell him I want it to end. I hate hurting people, but he's also hurt me quite a few times. I have no idea what to do!!! I am scared and feel mentally sick when I think about it. Your blog post though is amazing advice, I wish I was as strong as you. Hopefully I will get up the courage to end it with him and remove him. :(
I wish i could have my friend read your content who's going through the exact same thing, but it seems deleted. I remember reading it about a month ago? And it was sooo good.. If u dont mind me asking for a copy thru gmail or at least post it here again. i want her to find closure and i know words are powerful to break or heal somone.. And shes also now trying to cope by writing but i want her to be inspired by your words as it did to me.. thanks for inspiring 🧡
Jennifer Levinson is an LA based actress, pizza connoisseur, and fashion addict.